When Life Gets Real

Sometimes, we are called to witness life’s difficult moments from a place of helplessness. If you’re someone who’s used to handling things and rising to the occasion, it can be disconcerting to face a situation where you can't help or make a difference in someone’s life.

Where is my God as I sit here feeling helpless? My belief is that God is exactly where I am—right here, always present, as it always has been. My role now is to call forth that presence, to allow it to comfort me, even as I navigate this maze of confusing emotions.

Spirit never turns its back on us, never abandons us. This is what we must remember in our vulnerability. As metaphysicians, if we claim that we are never alone, then these moments become the true test of that belief. A Principle is only valuable if we can draw on it when times are tough. It’s in these moments that we truly discover what we can lean on.

If we can’t access these comforting Principles when needed, then they’re no more than empty sentiments. But personally, I know too much to dismiss what I teach and rely on as useless.

So, for anyone watching from the sidelines, here’s the task at hand:

• Be gentle with yourself. Don’t judge yourself for finding this hard—it is hard.

• Stay in conversation with your loved one, but allow them to set the tone and duration.

• Build a strong support network, separate from the person you’re supporting. If needed, find a group experienced in offering the kind of listening you need.

• Never let go of your spiritual practices. They will help you hold it together in the long run.

• Stay faithful, but don’t force yourself to be falsely strong.

• Cry when you need to, but not within earshot of your loved one. Create a safe space for yourself.

• Be patient, with both your loved one and yourself. Human emotions are real and can be difficult to process.

May you feel the love of Spirit surrounding you in this time. May your faith be something solid to lean on