Like me or not, I’m okay!
What a load of crap! I have struggled multiple decades trying to honestly say if you don’t like me, I am okay anyway. What is that human condition that has so many of us hunger so for acceptance and, yet, even when evidence surrounds us, we live in the doubt of it being real.
In truth, there comes a time, maybe its an age thing, where we finally relinquish the I want, I need, I am desperate for, with I am fine the way I am. I need no one’s acceptance, love or approval. When?
One of the greatest gifts we can give our children, grandchildren, and those under our influence, is the language that speaks to this subject. Let us get with the reality and teach this: not everyone is going to like you – so what? There comes a time when we must learn to be okay with not being approved of, accepted, or invited to the table or a party.
Working with groups as often as I do, I have the opportunity to see with my own eyes how real this need is. The feeling might be subtle, but it is there. It takes a self-aware individual to see this belief functioning below the surface but once it is acknowledged one can begin to rise above it and let it go.
Waiting, wanting, and wishing for acceptance might be one of the worst ways to spend our time. It cripples us. Yes, wanting what we might not have been is debilitating and it crushes our spirit.
Think of all the time and energy that you can retrieve by letting go and declaring I’m okay, I’m okay, I’m okay the way I am, as I am now and forever. I need no one’s approval other then my own. I love myself and my self-love fills me to overflowing.
Is this beginner spirituality? You might think so, but look within and practice radical self-honesty and instead of hoping that it changes start affirming yourself NOW. Even if you have done this before, do it again and again. Call this reality into being by claiming it as so.
Claim: I am okay the way I am. I am enough. I was born to accept my divine birthright and I do. I love myself as I am and as I am not and I need no acceptance or approval outside myself. I am worthy of my self-love. I am worthy of my self-acceptance. I am worthy of my good in all forms. God as I glorifies my existence.
