Expectations – Conclusions – Assumptions
It is time to WAKE the hell UP. We, you, me, and most of the planet are conditioned by elements that we do not recognize. While we do not recognize all the influences and conditioning going on we fall victim to this silent but very limiting habit. We have expectations and make conclusions – unconsciously, in addition to a bounty of assumptions, and then wonder why we are following along the path and the habits of our family, friends, and surrounding communities.
Whether you realize it or not, you are filled with expectations, some of these expectations are fairness, kindness, loyalty, and love. We expect that the world will, and should, be fair. When it is not, we are devastated. We believe that kindness should be a given but when we see evidence to the contrary, we give up hope for humanity. When in a relationship we have an expectation of loyalty and commitment and when it is not, we are devastated, and we think – and this is a hard one – that our mother and father are supposed to love us unconditionally and when they don’t, we are shocked and dismayed and often find ourselves in depression.
You see, we draw conclusions about the way life should be, we make assumptions also, and all of this mind activity is unconscious and leaves us in emotional pain. There are thousands of examples beyond my few examples from above. This is the effect of the collective conditioning of the planet and the only solution is deep and profound inquiry and questioning. Until we wake up, truly wake up, we will continue to find ourselves living a life based on unexamined conclusions.
You might be wondering why I would label the love of our mothers and fathers as an expectation, but if you unpack that expectation and dial it back to neutral – a no expectation attitude regarding your parents, you will experience a spaciousness in your heart where your expectations one existed. You’ve drawn the conclusion that they ‘should’ love you from unquestioned influences. Take away your expectations, conclusions, and assumptions and you will be left with an energetic spaciousness between you and your parents that frees them and you to find your true grounded happiness.
Unfortunately, many of the conclusions we make about life leave us wanting and dissatisfied about how our life is unfolding. A conclusion can be as simple as “you should work hard in life.” Really? What about questioning that conclusion and replacing it with “work easy and find joy.” What about the conclusions we have made based upon global agreement that getting old sucks and means you will feel irrelevant and useless. This idea is a conclusion that’s all. This kind of conclusion leaves us with active assumptions which cause us to engage others to fit this expectation and it causes limitations. As quantum physics declares – our observations/conclusions impact what we see, we begin to cause the reality created by our expectations. To change and transform our life ongoing, we must question what we think we know, we must question even the things that are certain. Every time we do this, we retrieve our power one thought and expectation at a time.
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